I have a client on the way to the studio right now and she texted me to say “what would you like from Second Cup?”
It really left me feeling like I would almost be being rude saying “nothing thank you” (like I am too good for you and your second cup!)
But how often do we ask questions the wrong way, or worse… we do not ask at all.
My Finn is gifted at asking questions. He asks me about a million a day (and isn’t always as gifted at listening to the answer!!!) But he will look at a situation and say… “those guys over there (at Disney) have cookies, I am going to ask if I can have one. If it’s yes it’s yes and if it’s no, its no. And that’s ok, I’m just going to ask.”
WHAT IS THE WORST THAT CAN HAPPEN IF WE ASK!???
The answer might be no…
The answer MIGHT be no, but the answer MIGHT be yes!
If you don’t ask at all, you have already told yourself no. That for whatever reason, conscious or subconscious, you don’t deserve the answer to be yes, or the world isn’t fair and things don’t usually go your way…
Kids don’t see that.
They just see what they want and they ask for it.
Alex and I sometimes cringe, but I rarely stop them, because it’s my own stories telling me that it’s not ok to ask for what we want. I want them to keep on asking through their lives. Asking for what they need and want, believing that they are worth it! And you know what? The mamma at Disney happily shared her cookies, the lady shared crackers so Addy could feed the birds and more often than not, the answer of a reasonably asked question is yes…
IF you KNOW that you want something. you can ask the right questions, the right way.
Make it so someone would be silly to say no. Be confident in your question. Believe that the answer should be yes, and it will come across that way. Or at least believe you are strong enough to handle a no, but you are brave enough to hope for a yes!
What will you ask for today?